I just read shan's blog, tagged a short message, but it didn't seem adequate..so thought I'd "talk" to her here since I know she reads mine.
My dear girl..I think you've done really, really well the past week. The strength you've been displaying, trying to lead life as per normal and remaining upbeat through your grief; this isn't something everyone is able to do. I'm proud of you, really. =)
Your mum was a beautiful person..the couple of times I met her throughout our years of friendship, the kind of sincerity she extended to us, as your friends, was really heart-warming. And from your blog entry, I'm even more sure that she was a truly admirable mother who sacrificed alot for your family's happiness.
Those words above may sound "politically-correct", as some would say, but that is not my intention here. I want you to know that, even though she's no longer physically around, she still lives on in your heart and memories.
Hold on to those happy memories of her, because that is the
real her, the mum you so love and who brought you up to be the wonderful girl you are today. Remember her in her happiness, the times her smile shone brilliantly and her laughter echoed in your ears.
And the last thing you should be doing is to blame yourself for something that wasn't within your control. We all know how much your family has done, as well as your mum herself. Sometimes in life, things just don't go the way as planned, and life drops sudden shocks and unpleasant surprises on us. Which is why all the more you need to stay strong.
The grieving process is a long one, and trust me, time does dull the pain. Grieve positively, and cry if you want to, because bottling it up is just going to make you feel worse.
I know you miss her, and as your life continues, you're going to keep on missing her. But please don't forget that she is never far from you; one thing I truly believe is that no matter where you are, she will be there watching over you, as she always has. Keep her in your heart, for that is where she belongs now.
For the same reason, you must stay happy and continue living life positively, because just ask yourself: isn't that the greatest wish of any parent? So don't disappoint her okay?
And always remember that one day, you will see her again. I really believe in that..I'm also waiting for the day I'll see my daddy again. Maybe your mum and my dad can be friends in the afterlife. Haha..what a way to put it. But yeah..you get my point. =)
I hope I wasn't being too nonsensical..just want you to know that you're never alone, there's always us and a whole load of other people out there who love you and want the best for you. Continue to be the ever-cheerful shan I've always known k? You know where to find me (and the rest) whenever you need a listening ear, a shoulder to lean on, a shopping kaki, fellow food junkie or whatever at all.
Love you babe. *huggs
The darker the night, the nearer the dawn. 
